BBC News just posted an article from a complex database analysis revealing the 10 most irritating cliches. Unfortunately, I am so guilty of using many of these - particularly in business situations!

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newst … n-irritating-phrases.html

Here’s the top 10 from the Oxford study:
1 - At the end of the day
2 - Fairly unique
3 - I personally
4 - At this moment in time
5 - With all due respect
6 - Absolutely
7 - It’s a nightmare
8 - Shouldn’t of
9 - 24/7
10 - It’s not rocket science

So, BBC Magazine did an online survey that revealed some more:

http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/magazine/7733264.stm

1. Basically
2. To be fair
3. To be honest
4. Going forward
5. The fact of the matter is
6. Let’s face it
7. Touch base
8. 110%
9. In the pipeline
10. Reason being
11. I’m not being funny but
12. You know
13. By the end of play today
14. Singing from the same hymn sheet
15. Can’t get my head around it
16. Raft of proposals
17. To roll out
18. Don’t just talk the talk, you got to walk the talk
19. Lesson to be learned

and

20. Actually

How many of these are you guilty of?

Dan

OK -this is a case for the brilliance in simplicity. Great and inspirational video…watch it all the way to the end!

Dan

I had an audiobook of Dale Carnegie’s “How to Win Friends and Influence People” that I’ve wanted to listen to for a long time. I wound up with a long drive to and from Birmingham, AL - about 14 hours on the road. Perfect timing! So I hooked up my iPod and gave it a listen. Great book! In one part Dale relates this letter published by W. Livingston Larned in 1956 and since republished in hundreds of different venues. If you haven’t read this as a father then I suggest you do - print it out and put in on your mirror or someplace where you won’t forget.

Dan

Photo by KellyB on Flickr

FATHER FORGETS
W. Livingston Larned
condensed as in “Readers Digest”

Listen, son: I am saying this as you lie asleep, one little paw crumpled under your cheek and the blond curls stickily wet on your damp forehead. I have stolen into your room alone. Just a few minutes ago, as I sat reading my paper in the library, a stifling wave of remorse swept over me. Guiltily I came to your bedside.

There are the things I was thinking, son: I had been cross to you. I scolded you as you were dressing for school because you gave your face merely a dab with a towel. I took you to task for not cleaning your shoes. I called out angrily when you threw some of your things on the floor.

At breakfast I found fault, too. You spilled things. You gulped down your food. You put your elbows on the table. You spread butter too thick on your bread. And as you started off to play and I made for my train, you turned and waved a hand and called, “Goodbye, Daddy!” and I frowned, and said in reply, “Hold your shoulders back!”

Then it began all over again in the late afternoon. As I came up the road I spied you, down on your knees, playing marbles. There were holes in your stockings. I humiliated you before your boyfriends by marching you ahead of me to the house. Stockings were expensive-and if you had to buy them you would be more careful! Imagine that, son, from a father!

Do you remember, later, when I was reading in the library, how you came in timidly, with a sort of hurt look in your eyes? When I glanced up over my paper, impatient at the interruption, you hesitated at the door. “What is it you want?” I snapped. You said nothing, but ran across in one tempestuous plunge, and threw your arms around my neck and kissed me, and your small arms tightened with an affection that God had set blooming in your heart and which even neglect could not wither. And then you were gone, pattering up the stairs.

Well, son, it was shortly afterwards that my paper slipped from my hands and a terrible sickening fear came over me. What has habit been doing to me? The habit of finding fault, of reprimanding-this was my reward to you for being a boy. It was not that I did not love you; it was that I expected too much of youth. I was measuring you by the yardstick of my own years.

And there was so much that was good and fine and true in your character. The little heart of you was as big as the dawn itself over the wide hills. This was shown by your spontaneous impulse to rush in and kiss me good night. Nothing else matters tonight, son. I have come to your bedside in the darkness, and I have knelt there, ashamed! It is feeble atonement; I know you would not understand these things if I told them to you during your waking hours. But tomorrow I will be a real daddy! I will chum with you, and suffer when you suffer, and laugh when you laugh. I will bite my tongue when impatient words come. I will keep saying as if it were a ritual: “He is nothing but a boy-a little boy!”

I am afraid I have visualized you as a man. Yet as I see you now, son, crumpled and weary in your cot, I see that you are still a baby. Yesterday you were in your mother’s arms, your head on her shoulder. I have asked too much, too much, yet given too little of myself. Promise me, as I teach you to have the manners of a man, that you will remind me how to have the loving spirit of a child.

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Ran across this article in the New Yorker. It discusses self-control, delayed gratification — and how this ability it is linked to success.

Can you pass the marshmallow test?

http://www.newyorker.com/reporting/20 … ct_lehrer?currentPage=all

Dan

Hey - I don’t which category to put this in the 3:9 Galaxy, but hey - grilling is like a universal language, right?!?

I love me a good Rib Eye or NY Strip - but the price usually keeps me from buying.

I found this article on the Washington Post today that points out 9 overlooked and affordable cuts of beef suitable for grilling.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-srv/ … eaks/?sid=ST2009051902591

Here they are:
-Hangar
-Flat Iron
-Flank
-Flap Meat
-Tri Tip
-Skirt
*Chuck-Eye
*Chuck-Shoulder
*Top Sirloin

The last three are particularly great choices to look out for! Enjoy!

Happy Memorial Day! Pray for our Troops.

Dan

You’ve heard Dave Ramsey talk about “snowballing” debt. Well, what if there isn’t enough snow to make a snowball?!?

Try snowflaking!

From the author - I’ve Paid for This Twice Already

I have a set amount I pay to debt without fail every month that is above my minimum payment due (about $800). On top of that, I also try to collect up little bits of money wherever I can and I apply those as well to my top priority debt as immediately as possible. I take surveys online, I sell possessions on craigslist and ebay, I have yard sales, and any money I get from these endeavors goes directly to my debt. I also keep a very strict accounting of all the money that comes in every month and what I spend and everything left over at the end of the month not earmarked for future expenses also goes directly to debt. These are my snowflakes. I have averaged over $200 extra going to pay down my credit card debt every month due to these snowflaking efforts.

http://www.paidtwice.com/2007/10/12/snowflaking-a-primer/

Dan

A good friend of mine sent this to me. It’s really one of those chain letters you get that’s been passed through a million other people. I couldn’t find an attributable source so I’ll post it as anonymous unless someone corrects me. Anyway I did the math and I have 1,857 Saturdays left. Man…that sort of brings it home. Make ‘em count boyz!

Dan

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The older I get, the more I enjoy Saturday morning. Perhaps it’s the quiet solitude that comes with being the first to rise, or maybe it’s the unbounded joy of not having to be at work. Either way, the first few hours of a Saturday morning are most enjoyable.

A few weeks ago, I was shuffling toward the garage with a steaming cup of coffee in one hand and the morning paper in the other. What began as a typical Saturday morning turned into one of those lessons that life seems to hand you from time to time. Let me tell you about it:

I turned the dial up into the phone portion of the band on my ham radio in order to listen to a Saturday morning swap net. Along the way, I came across an older sounding chap, with a tremendous signal and a golden voice. You know the kind; he sounded like he should be in the broadcasting business. He was telling whomever he was talking with something about a thousand marbles. I was intrigued and stopped to listen to what he had to say.

Well, Tom, it sure sounds like you’re busy with your job. I’m sure they pay you well but it’s a shame you have to be away from home and your family so much. Hard to believe a young fellow should have to work sixty or seventy hours a week to make ends meet. It’s too bad you missed your daughters dance recital, he continued; Let me tell you something that has helped me keep my own priorities. And that’s when he began to explain his theory of a thousand marbles.

You see, I sat down one day and did a little arithmetic. The average person lives about seventy-five years. I know, some live more and some live less, but on average, folks live about seventy-five years.

Now then, I multiplied 75 times 52 and I came up with 3,900, which is the number of Saturdays that the average person has in their entire lifetime. Now, stick with me, Tom, I’m getting to the important part.

It took me until I was fifty-five years old to think about all this in any detail, he went on, and by that time I had lived through over twenty-eight hundred Saturdays. I got to thinking that if I lived to be seventy-five, I only had about a thousand of them left to enjoy. So I went to a toy store and bought every single marble they had. I ended up having to visit three toy stores to round up 1,000 marbles. I took them home and put them inside a large, clear plastic container right here in the shack next to my gear.

Every Saturday since then, I have taken one marble out and thrown it away. I found that by watching the marbles diminish, I focused more on the really important things in life.

There’s nothing like watching your time here on this earth run out to help get your priorities straight.

Now let me tell you one last thing before I sign off with you and take my lovely wife out for breakfast. This morning, I took the very last marble out of the container. I figure that if I make it until next Saturday then I have been given a little extra time. And the one thing we can all use is a little more time.

It was nice to meet you Tom. I hope you spend more time with your family, and I hope to meet you again here on the band. This is a 75 year old man, K9NZQ, clear and going QRT, good morning!

You could have heard a pin drop on the band when this fellow signed off. I guess he gave us all a lot to think about. I had planned to work on the antenna that morning, and then I was going to meet up with a few hams to work on the next club newsletter.

Instead, I went upstairs and woke my wife up with a kiss. C’mon honey, I’m taking you and the kids to breakfast.

“What brought this on?” She asked with a smile.

Oh, nothing special, it’s just been a long time since we spent a Saturday together with the kids. And hey, can we stop at a toy store while were out? I need to buy some marbles.

MIT Professor Simon Johnson, et al just launched a new website called Baseline Scenario. I think they do a great job of breaking down the current financial crises and highlighting the REAL problems in the economy. Based on this site and what I’ve been reading in the WSJ - we could be in for a long winter. I was thinking perhaps we’d start climbing out of this mess by Q2-Q3 2010 but now not so sure.

Take a read. You’ll feel enlightened!

http://baselinescenario.com/2009/02/08/baseline-scenario-2909/

Dan

It may be only February, but it’s never too early (or too late) to create a little momentum in your life by removing the clutter.

As a confession, I’m a packrat - but slowly, ever so slowly - I’m simplifying. I spent last year removing a ton of junk, but from the looks of it - it has multiplied a little…go figure. I’m beginning to think “stuff” just spontaneously duplicates - like in Star Trek “Trouble with Tribbles.”

My real problems are with guitars, books, and because I work out of my house…paper. I’ve recommended David Allen’s “Getting Things Done” (GTD) as a way to be organized in the real world - and it has done wonders for my productivity. Sometimes, when you’ve got a big mess, brute force is the answer.

Here’s an article on how to declutter a room in one go. Basically…quarantine two areas and start sorting….

http://zenhabits.net/2009/02/how-to-d … an-entire-room-in-one-go/

Dan

You probably have this book on your shelf and have never really read it!

It’s Stephen Covey’s book, “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” - and it is definitely among my top 10 must read books for anyone looking to create momentum in their lives.

So you know how thrilled I was when I found out that Audible is running a promotion for a free copy of the abridged “7 Habits” audiobook. If you are not a reader, you can get the highlights during a week of commutes!

You do have to create an Audible account - but otherwise it appears to be an easy download.

http://www.audible.com/adbl/entry/off … &productID=FR_COVE_000032

Enjoy!

Dan